No one deserves to be abused! If you are in an abusive relationship and are afraid, here are some helpful hints that can help keep you safe. If, at any time, you are in a scary situation, and you fear for your safety or the safety of others, call 911.

Safety During an Explosive Incident

  • Try to position yourself in a room with an exit-a window or a door leading outside. Try to stay away from the bathroom, kitchen, garage or any other room that may contain weapons or hard surfaces
  • Try to get in a room that has a phone, or get a cell phone to take with you if possible
  • Devise a 911 code word to use with your neighbors, children family and/or anyone else that may hear an argument. Inform anyone who may hear your voice during an argument that if they the 911 code word they should call police immediately
  • Plan a safe route ahead of time to leave your home. Practice exiting your home through identified doors and windows-plan which elevator or stairwell would be best to use. If you cannot physically practice your escape then visualize it several times
  • Pack a bag with the checklist items. Keep this bag either at a friend's or family member's house so you can pick it up quickly and easily
  • Plan where you will go if you leave your house and how you will get there
  • Use your own instincts and judgment. If the situation becomes very dangerous, consider doing whatever is necessary to calm the abuser down
  • Tell your children to never get involved during an argument between you and your abuser
  • Discuss a safety plan with your children. Have a code word with your children that lets them know to call 911
  • Keep a journal. This journal can also be used to document any specific incidents of abuse and any other important information you want to record. Record all abuse by your batterer. Always keep this journal away from your abuser. You may want to keep it at your office or at a friend or family member's house. Save all messages/recordings from batterer
New Horizons can help you complete a safety plan, and give you resources that can help increase your safety and help protect your children.

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Remember no one asks to be abused and domestic violence is never the fault of the victim.